How can I help my friends and loved ones understand what I'm feeling?

Grieving is physically and emotionally exhausting. Friends and loved ones might not understand the intensity of your grief or your need for unconditional support. Spend time with friends or loved ones who offer the type of understanding and encouragement you need.

To help others understand what you're experiencing, you might want to share material on infant death from your doctor, support group or helpful websites. Avoid being drawn into arguments, however. If you're facing someone who doesn't support your grief, you might explain that the situation is too difficult to discuss with him or her.

If you ended a much-wanted pregnancy, carried a pregnancy to term knowing the baby wouldn't survive or discontinued life support for your critically ill baby, you might carry an even heavier emotional burden. If others pass judgment on your decision, you might feel isolated and even more desolate. Support from an understanding grief group or professional counselor can be invaluable.